2/12/2020 Emotional Triggers and Negative Energy As I am sitting here reading my spiritual journal I am reminded about how so many speak about walking away from negative people and situations. Even though this advice is very good it did not help me for my particular situation. See I work in an emergency department and one of my jobs is to sit with those who have some type of addiction or psychological problem and not everyone who may be experiencing a crisis in their own lives is very happy about being in the emergency department, some even being forced there against there will. My sole job is to keep these individuals in their designated bed and reinforce to them to stay there till they are seen by the doctor to be cleared for discharge or admission. While most are very pleasant and understanding there are some that are not so pleasant. This is where my dilemma was, as much as I could maintain my center and balance in the outside world by keeping the negative out of my life, at work it was another issue. So the question for me is how do I maintain my spiritual practice of being in a loving state that keeps me center and balanced in a very negative environment? This was my question I asked. Not one person or book seemed to have the answer for me. I found myself alone and in great need of an answer. What did I do? I started to learn more about me and what would sent me off balance. Every time I would come off balance during an interaction with a patient I would ask someone to relieve me so that I could go meditate to bring myself back into balance. What I found during that time was why I was off balance. It turns out that my own reaction was due to the fact that I myself had a wound that was being triggered by this interaction. The emotion that was triggered had nothing to do with the individual that I had the interaction with but with my own self. This is when I realized that every emotion that gets triggered is showing me in side my self where the wounds lie. This allowed me to work on those wounds till they finally become healed and no longer caused an emotional reaction to an outside trigger. Once I began this work on my self at my job it became clear. If I was not triggered by another's behavior then I knew that negative energy was not mind and was that of the patient. See what I discovered was it is not about separating ourselves from other people's negative energy but understanding and discovering where that negative energy is really coming from within our self. I finally got to a place that I could physically be around those who have some severe negative energy within them and be able to stand there, still, centered and balanced without any negative emotion inside of my self. This has become such a great self help tool for me but has also allowed me to see inside others and the areas in them that need work. The biggest thing to remember when doing this practice is to never feed into negative energy, do not add negative behavior to negative behavior. When you are centered and balanced you are neutral and this allows the other person to sometimes diffuse their own negative emotions on their own because there is no negative energy being feed into them.
Sometimes I found it very important to figure out if my behavior or my actions was causing the persons severe negative emotion. Was it my tone of voice or choice of words causing the patient to become aggressive and negative in an already negative environment like an emergency room. This is why it was really important to know what was causing my own emotional responses. Sometimes working in a negative environment becomes so the norm that we lose sight of what is a positive environment. My goal was to make the environment as positive as possible so that no one can blame another for their own emotion. When I was in a positive, caring, loving state of being I could no longer be the target of blame from the patient and sometimes even co-workers. If I was not in that state of being the patient could blame me for them not being treated correctly and that was there reason for misbehavior. It is very easy to become negative in a negative environment so the biggest key is to be the positive light in such an environment even if you are the only one. Slowly you will see how the whole environment can change around you. Don't add to the negative be the positive. And always remember everyone of us is a work in progress, and even though you may be in a positive balanced mind set another person may not be there yet. Be patient and as kind as possible knowing they are where they are on their journey. No one is greater than the other just because you they may be further along in the process.